From the very beginning of life pediatricians tell us that infants and children need to learn to sleep on their own. They claim that it is healthier for one to learn to go to sleep by him or herself.
Some of us work very heard to train our children to be independent sleepers. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not.
All of this work and independent sleeping for years only leads up to one thing, marriage and co-sleeping with a mate.
I have heard of many different sleeping situations among married couples.
Some couples are cuddle sleepers. They sleep very close to one another and often hold each other in bed. When one or the other mate is out of town or out for the night, the other mate have difficult falling asleep alone in bed.
Other couples enjoy the cuddling and closeness before sleep. However once it is time to say good night, they quickly separate to their own side of the bed.
Some couples need even more distance than this. They are so used to having their own sleeping space and quietness of the room that they cannot sleep with someone else. These couples have their own beds and their own bedrooms. The reasons for the individual rooms may range from lack of space, to need for separation, to snoring. Just because the couple does not sleep together does not mean that they are experiencing relationship troubles. The couple simple needs its rest.
The final stage of couple sleep patterns is caused by trouble on the home front. Some couples choose to sleep separately due to intimacy troubles or problems in the relationship. They no longer enjoy the closeness of one another.
So what is your sleeping pattern with your mate? Do you enjoy cuddling or are you more of an independent sleeper?
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