The incidence of divorce is fairly high in the world, and the percentage has increased among church members as well. There are many reasons that people get divorced, and it is important that we do not judge those that are. If you are ever faced with divorce, it can be a difficult and trying time. Your world just seems to shatter and you are left to pick up the pieces. Here are five tips on how to make the divorce go smoothly for your family.
1) While you may have bitter feelings towards your spouse, it is important to forgive him or her. This is especially true if you have children. You may not like your soon to ex, but it is important that you do not belittle him in front of the children. Their world is falling apart, as much or more than yours, and it will make it easier on them if you can get along for their sakes.
2) Before you file for a divorce it is important to talk to your bishop. Hopefully you can do this as a couple. If your spouse refuses to go with you, then you will need to go alone. This can make the process easier if you later decide to remarry in the temple.
3) Allow yourself time to grieve the loss. Marriage has a lot of dreams and hopes built around it, and it is difficult to let those things go. If you need to take some time alone to let go of your grief. You can join a support group or write in your journal. Do what works for you.
4) When the time is right begin dating again. One great way to do this is through the singles activities in your stake. These activities give you a chance to socialize with other adults, and are often relatively stress free. Attending these activities can help you find someone who is of the same faith.
5) You may want to take your children to see a counselor as well. You should also be available to answer questions and deal with hurt feelings. This is a difficult time for everyone involved.
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