Finding Where You Fit In

Since being divorced I feel like I am in a constant state of limbo. Most of my good friends are married now, while others are continuing to enjoy the single life. I am no longer married, but my single life is far different from that of my friends. There are times when I envy both parties. I long for the companionship and support that marriage could bring, and I envy those single friends who can do what they want when they want without a care in the world. I am a mother first, and as such, my priority is to my son. While my single friends are out dating and having a good time, I am home taking care of the needs of a four year old. I would never trade my son for anything in the world. I love my role as a mother, but it definitely is a heavy burden to carry on your own.

Today as I sat in a room full of other single men and women, I felt completely alone. My life is so different now. I felt the heat of the tears welling up in my eyes as I realized how difficult it was to fit in. Being divorced can be isolating at times. You are single, but you still have so many responsibilities, as you are trying to support your children on your own. Your schedule is tight as you juggle raising and supporting them. It isn’t easy, and it is impossible to understand unless you have experienced it yourself.

If you are a single mother who is struggling, reach out to other single moms out there. With the divorce rate as high as it is, you shouldn’t have to look very far before you can find another single mom who is going through the same things you are. Reach out and support each other. You’re both doing a tough job alone.