Sometimes, it’s easier to see problems in our friends and family than it is to see them in ourselves. If you have a friend or loved one with a body image problem, there are a lot of things you can do to help.
- Watch for the warning signs of a serious body image problem. If a person is spending an hour a day (or more) talking about his “flaws”, that’s a major indicator of a serious problem. Also watch for a person changing their normal routine because of a supposed “flaw” — like a person who won’t go out for dinner because they’re so ugly, or because their hair isn’t right.
- Do your research. Not sure if what you’re seeing is a serious body image issue? Check out BodyImageProgram.com or BDDCentral.com for information. You’ll also find a list of professionals in your area who can help your friend or loved one.
- Be gentle and empathetic. Confrontation or aggression isn’t going to help your friend or loved one with their body image issues. Find a quiet time to have a talk about what’s wrong.
- Be specific in your concerns. Saying “I think you have a body image issue” is vague and easily denied. Saying “You haven’t come out for drinks in a month because you hate your hair” is specific and forces your friend to address the concern.
- Share what you’ve learned. Your friend or loved one may not realize that her concern with her body image is keeping her from living a full, healthy life. Show her your research and tell her why you’re concerned.
- Encourage your friend or loved one to seek treatment. Tell him that there’s help out there, and he doesn’t have to feel like this. Support him through his efforts to talk to his doctor or a mental health professional. Offer to come along for doctor visits and support groups.