Suppose your husband (or wife) suddenly starts showing an interest in more creative activities in the bedroom, or maybe even in other areas of the home. It isn’t like things have always been oh-so routine, but this is a notable change. What’s your first thought?
If you instantly think he must be cheating on you, take a deep breath and think it through. While it may be a possibility if there are issues or other signs that point to infidelity, it’s pretty unlikely if this is the only change. If you are really concerned, you might need to ask him about it to reassure yourself. Try to be casual rather than accusatory.
If he is cheating, doesn’t it make sense that he would try to keep things the same with his wife and try out new stuff with the other woman?
You’re probably thinking, “Okay, that might make sense, but then where is he getting these ideas?” There are various answers to this question. He may just be thinking about sex more often, which may have inspired him to try new and different things. If your kids are away at camp or visiting at a friend’s house for the night, it may just be that he was waiting for the opportunity.
He also may have read a book without telling you, so that he could surprise you. He may have even seen a blog, a website, or a magazine that talks about spicing things up a bit. Women read Cosmo, so he might be reading something similar that describes some cool new move or a more romantic approach.
In most cases, he’s just looking for ways to liven things up, which may well increase the pleasure for both of you. Try to be open-minded (as long as he doesn’t suggest anything that makes you truly uncomfortable) and you might just start to enjoy your man’s new creative streak.