Continuing with part one I wanted to provide you with more real life lessons that come out of divorce. Keep in mind that divorce and life after is what you make of it. The key to surviving divorce is to be realistic and be open to learning and growth.
-If there are kids resulting from the marriage, you need to remember that you and your ex-spouse will have a connection forever. Many people think that two divorced people only have to deal with each other until the children reach the age of 18 but nothing could be further from the truth. After all, there will be college graduations, marriages, grandbabies, and many more occasions in between that need to be shared. The most important thing is to put the children first, learning to be kind and forgiving, no matter the reason for the divorce.
-Expect to go through periods of hatred. Even if these phases do not last (and they should not last), you will have times when you feel hate toward your ex-spouse. Every divorce has different phases that include abandonment, regret, fear, grief, and hate. You need to allow yourself time to pass through each of these stages so you can heal completely.
-Okay, chances are your ex-wife or ex-husband is going to get remarried. I do not care how much you hate each other or how hurt you were from the divorce, that day is going to hurt. Even if you and your ex-spouse are best of friends and you wish him or her the very best, when you see that individual remarry, it hurts. After all, remarriage is finality, the closing of a chapter that will never again open. Therefore, expect this day to be difficult, again allowing yourself to feel.
-Life will go on after your divorce. While you might hurt for a while and question what the future holds, you will get back on your feet and move forward. Again, use the divorce as a learning tool to become a better person. Divorce is never easy and in many instances, it is extremely difficult. With time and patience, you will find a new life.
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