Passion doesn’t have to die in a relationship. However, passion does decline somewhat – partially because we change the level of intensity is based on the allure and newness of a relationship. At the beginning of any relationship, we idealize our partners. We see them for most of their glory and few of their flaws. As we get to know them and build our relationship, we begin to learn about some of their faults and in a way – it’s like some of the shine rubs off.
What’s important to realize is that relationship is a lot like a shiny new penny. When you first get it, it’s shiny and glossy and really catches the light. You like to look at it and you like to admire it. Over time, the shine diminishes – but the value doesn’t diminish.
Candles, Romance & Love
While love and passion are uniquely intertwined with our spouses, the cooling of one does not diminish the other. Passion is very much like tides, it rises and falls. The passion shared between two people who know each other very well and who share deep emotional bonds are colored by the intimacies one can only experience when you know someone that well. The passions we feel when we are just getting to know and love someone are very exciting. If you’re worried that your passion is diminishing – you can work together to re-ignite your passions by rediscovering newness in your relationship.
Ways you can re-ignite newness:
- Take a cooking class
- Take up a new sport
- Learn a new game
- Take a college class
These may not sound like they are that exciting, but they are all activities that encourage the two of you to spend time together and learning something new together – you can do something similar by traveling, exploring or discovering new talents together. The newness of learning and sharing can give you new insights into each other and re-ignite passions.
How do you and your spouse keep your passions ignited together?
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