Molding Future Adults

Amid the chaos of everyday life, it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture of parenting.

Very easy.

When you’re in the trenches dealing with your baby’s dirty diapers, your tween’s potty mouth and the host of other excrement that comes with raising children, it’s hard to focus on the fact that you are molding future adults.

Well-adjusted, responsible, thoughtful, charitable, productive adults.

That’s the goal.

The challenge is looking beyond the moment.

These moments.

The times when it seems easier to give up, give in, or frankly, not give a damn, rather than digging deep to teach your kids the skills and core values needed to mature into decent human beings.

Experts suggest being extra careful when picking battles with your kids.  Why not skip the battle all together?  Instead of engaging in a war with your child, simply stand strong and calmly enforce your rules.  Forgo the nagging, the lectures and endless verbal sparring; rather, set clear boundaries and follow through with punishments when the line is crossed.

However, be prudent when it comes to doling out punishments.  Never punish a child when you are angry.  You are better off taking a break and calming down before imposing a sentence.  During that time, remember that the reason for punishing your child is to teach him a lesson about actions and consequences.  If you’re goal is to hurt your child rather than guide him, your punishment is a worthless endeavor.

Finally, try to avoid confrontation.  You can do this by clearly communicating to your child what you expect from him in various situations.  If he fails, tell him how he can do better the next time. This instruction will reduce your child’s frustration because he will have a clear understanding of your expectations and guidance on how to improve in the future.



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Michele Cheplic

About Michele Cheplic

Michele Cheplic was born and raised in Hilo, Hawaii, but now lives in Wisconsin. Michele graduated from the University of Wisconsin-Madison with a degree in Journalism. She spent the next ten years as a television anchor and reporter at various stations throughout the country (from the CBS affiliate in Honolulu to the NBC affiliate in Green Bay). She has won numerous honors including an Emmy Award and multiple Edward R. Murrow awards honoring outstanding achievements in broadcast journalism. In addition, she has received awards from the Aircraft Owners and Pilots Association for her reports on air travel and the Wisconsin Education Association Council for her stories on education. Michele has since left television to concentrate on being a mom and freelance writer.