Every person has their own unique language. It comes from the way they were raised, books they’ve read, experiences they’ve had—everything influences the way they see the world around them, and they will have their own ways of expressing their thoughts, feelings, and desires. When you are in a relationship with someone, you’ll find the greatest happiness of success in your relationship if you learn to speak their language, and if they learn to speak yours.
If something goes wrong with your current relationship and you find yourself in another down the road, you will need to learn that person’s unique language. You can’t think that just because you understood one person really well, you’ll understand all people of that gender—every person is different. I chuckle when I hear a man say that he finally understands women, and he offers his piece of wisdom. What he says might be true of most women, but it won’t be true of all, just as you can’t broadly generalize a man. There are exceptions to every rule, and that’s part of what makes life fun. We meet and interact with different sorts of people all the time—imagine how boring life would be if we were all exactly the same!
It can be difficult to learn the language someone else is speaking to you. Their life experience may have brought them to completely different conclusions than yours, and their perceptions may vary widely. They will phrase things differently. They will relate to things differently. But as you come to know your partner, you’ll discover that these differences are what make them special, and by that token, what make them special to you. It’s worth the time it will take to learn their language. It will mean the difference between a long, fulfilling relationship, and one that is fraught with frustration from the start.
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