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Teaching Your Children Respect

The concept of respect is one that is absolutely crucial for our children to understand. Our society is drifting further away from the basic ideas of courtesy. It used to be that children addressed their elders as “ma’am” and “sir.” Back-talk simply was unheard of. And if a child did slip, well, there was a willow branch switch waiting for them behind the woodshed. As the years have gone by and lawmakers have sought to stamp out child abuse, discipline has taken on a different form. In many ways, this has been good for us, as parents have turned to … Continue reading →

Estate Planning and the Step Family

For too many of us, estate planning is the thing we’re always going to get to but often don’t. It’s like flossing, but with exponentially greater potential for harm. I understand why we procrastinate, believe me I do, but a failure to act in this department can have a devastating effect on your family. Our financial planner had been after us to create an estate plan for a year; as we began preparations for an extended trip through Mexico, it seemed irresponsible not to have something in place. We contacted an attorney who came highly recommended, and blithely scheduled an … Continue reading →

Young Adults Now Covered By Parent’s Insurance

The next part of the Affordable Care Act goes into affect today, Thursday, September 23, 2010. Now, it is possible for young adults to be covered under their parent’s health insurance policy. This is the next step in a series of upcoming changes to health insurance that will be slowly rolled out between now, and 2014. Previously, we saw the Pre-Existing Condition Insurance Plan (PCIP) That part of the plan was designed for people who had been refused health insurance coverage by a private insurance company specifically because that person had a pre-existing condition. One purpose of the Affordable Care … Continue reading →

Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?

What exactly does it mean to “enable your adult child?” What the act of enabling does is to actively prevent your child from achieving appropriate developmental milestones as they age. Thus continually refusing to make your child/teenager/young adult take responsibility for their omissions and commissions of duty effectively leaves them as underperforming adults. In simpler words, if you do not make your 8-year old carry his or her plate to the kitchen after a meal and dispose of it according to age-appropriate behaviors, you are allowing that child to remain emotionally at that age, in that area of responsibility, longer … Continue reading →

Children’s Books on Diversity and Feelings

My last blog and the one before that highlighted books showing diverse families such as adoptive, interracial, stepparent, single parent, multigenerational. This blog will spotlight books that: * look at diversity of abilities and disabilities as well as looks *help kids deal with diverse feelings I’ve recommended before—but can’t recommend highly enough—the Sesame Street book We’re Different, We’re the Same. Using Sesame’s Street’s trademark mixture of all kinds of people, animals, and friendly monsters, as well as kids’ favorite character Elmo as cameraman (camera-monster?), the book shows pictures of all different types of noses, eyes, skin color, body size and … Continue reading →

Combatting Stereotypes in Children, Part Two

In recent blogs we’ve talked about whether economic pressures and anti-immigrant sentiment will have an effect on our transracially adopted children. I wrote one blog on how adults can explore our own feelings about diversity. The blog Combatting Racism in Children, Part One talked about how children form attitudes and the importance of creating a diverse environment for young children, including diversity in pictures and in dramatic play props such as dress-up clothes and food. This blog will talk about some books and films that encourage an understanding of other cultures and of immigrants to America. There are many more … Continue reading →

Positive Steps to Confront Stereotypes

In recent blogs I talked about anti-immigrant feeling in America today and whether it will have an unintended impact on our adopted children. I was thinking primarily of our Asian and Latino children, but a third-grader from Ethiopia was recently taunted in my neighborhood and told to go back to her country. In some parts of the U.S. the immigrant African population may be larger than the African-American population, so possibly more and more people will assume that African-heritage children are immigrants as well. And some of them are—Haiti and Liberia have been native countries of significant numbers of adopted … Continue reading →

Why Are Children Disobedient?

Many parents and teachers will tell you that children these days are disobedient. Why is that so? Because they are learning it from us. Too often we know exactly what we should do in a situation and yet we don’t do it. Even as I wrote those words, God convicted me. I knew I was guilty of doing exactly that. Yesterday I thought about calling someone to see how they were but didn’t because I wanted to do all the things I had to do, so I could finish reading the latest Jodi Picoult book. So this time when I … Continue reading →

“Sick” Manners for Young Children

“Cover your mouth when you cough” is just the beginning of the manners that can keep an ill person from being a complete horror in public. Ideally, of course, we wouldn’t leave the house when we are sick but that just is not the reality. It is up to us as parents to teach our children what is appropriate manners for coping with an illness while out in public. The idea for this article came to me when I was sitting on the bus and two ADULTS were coughing, sniffing, and sneezing behind me without any regard for the people … Continue reading →

When Your Kids Tell You Something the Step-parent Said

It is so incredibly common for children in divorced and separated families to try to play both parents off each other than we could probably write and talk about this for a month. If one of both of the biological parents re-marries or re-partners, that adds step parents to the mix and provides even more adults for children to create drama with. If there is a step-parent in your child’s life, chances are he or she will try to drum up some drama or report on something that one of the step parents said in order to see how you … Continue reading →