This week I was talking to someone about becoming single. He said to me, “Well you’re already at rock bottom. Guess you can only go up from here.” I was a little taken aback by the comment. I do believe life will only continue to go up from here, but I’m certainly not at rock bottom. In fact, since getting divorced and becoming a single mother, my life is significantly more fulfilling. I am happier than I have been in my entire life. That’s not to say I don’t still have my bad days, but even those aren’t so bad anymore. Now, that doesn’t mean that if you run off and get divorced your life is suddenly going to be so much better. It simply means that for me, in my situation, it was the right thing. I spent so many years in denial, trying to convince myself that I was really happy, that I couldn’t see the reality of my situation. I didn’t realize how miserable I was, because I simply couldn’t face it. When my ex husband left it forced me to deal with it. I had to come to terms with where I was at in my life and decide whether I was going to continue the path to misery or pick myself up and find the path to happiness.
Being single is lonely sometimes, but in all honesty, I have learned so many things from being on my own. I have gained a greater self image. My relationship with my son couldn’t be better. I am a better mother because I don’t ever take one single breath for granted. I am going after dreams I never thought possible. And I am happier than I have been in my entire life.
Would I like to be married again someday? Yes. But, I am finally to a point in my life, where I can truly say I don’t need anyone else to make me happy. I can do that on my own. Just because I’m single doesn’t mean I’m unhappy. In fact, it’s really quite the opposite.