Tag Archives: Conscience

Is Your Conscience Helping or Hurting Your Parenting?

I have to admit that sometimes in the world of parenting my conscience can be a bit help—it spurs me on to do the right thing and helps guide me in making decent decisions on behalf of my children. Other times, however, my conscience can eat me alive! Oh, that guilt that tends to come from someplace outside myself and settles in to make me feel horrible! There are definitely times when my conscience is more of a bother than a help… For example, I have become rather sensitive to the Green Police and every time I consider throwing away … Continue reading →

Can You Help Your Child Get a Conscience?

There have been times over the years when I’ve been downright worried about whether one of my children would ever develop a conscience about his or her behavior. It’s happened with all of my three children at one time or another and I can assure you that while we still have a few bumps, overall, they do have a conscience about their behavior and how they interact with others. BUT, it hasn’t been a linear path and there have been days when I was mighty worried… Maybe there are some children who are born with a well-developed conscience, but it … Continue reading →

Side Effects of Attachment Disorders (Part 4) Conscience Development

In the effort to survive, children with attachment disorders have learned to think about only themselves. Because the child hasn’t had a chance to develop a healthy long lasting attachment, the child may not have learned how to care about the way his or her behaviors affect anyone else. To a child with an attachment disorder it really doesn’t matter how the new parents or caregivers feel about the child, he or she has not had the opportunity to develop an active conscience. A healthy well-attached child begins to care about how their actions affect the other important people in … Continue reading →

Side Effects of Attachment Disorders (Part 1) Introduction.

Children with attachment disorders feel their safety is constantly threatened. Life has shown the child it is too risky to trust someone who is bigger, stronger, and smarter to protect them. These children tend to have radar tuned into keeping safe. This can interfere with usual childhood learning experiences and development. Other side effects from attachment disorders can contribute to behaviors that baffle, frustrate and drain even the most determined adoptive parents. These behaviors will be discussed at length in the next several Blogs. Some of the side effect behaviors seen in children with attachment disorders are: Opposition. Control. Conscience … Continue reading →