Tag Archives: adjustment

When Changes Need to be Made in a Rush

I often advocate taking your time when it comes to research and problem-solving in your home business. I generally think that if we can slow down, take our time and do our homework we tend to make better decisions and choices and be less stressed about it. It is not always possible, however, to slow everything down and do a thorough investigation—sometimes we are forced to make changes and adjustments and we have do to it in a rush… To be fair, sometimes the quick decisions and changes turn out to be the best. Other times, it can just be … Continue reading →

When it isn’t What You Expected

Let’s be honest, most of us entered parenting with some set expectations—we had an idea of what our child or children would be like, what family life would be like, and we probably even imagined what sort of parent we would be. It does not take long for most of us to get jerked out of our fantasies and into the real world and then we begin facing the fact that things are just not turning out as we expected… There are really only two things we can do when we are faced with discovering that life as a parent … Continue reading →

Sometimes You May Have to be Dragged Kicking and Screaming

We talk a lot about motivation and growth here in the home business blog. For many of us, getting our home businesses off the ground is only the first major hurdle—staying involved, motivated, and focused on building our businesses is a challenging, full-time focus for us too. Keeping track of the daily details may be the forest that keeps us from seeing the trees that are change and progress. It may take something drastic to drag us into the future with our businesses—whether we want to or not! Growing pains are hard! Even if we have put a lot of … Continue reading →

Shifting Bed-Time Schedules (and Other Schedules Too)

We all know by now that consistency and routine are important for a healthy, functioning family. BUT, change is constant—our lives change, our schedules change, and we also have to be flexible and capable of adjusting. For a single parent, figuring out how to cope with big schedule changes like a shift in bed-time schedules or routine, and still maintain consistency and limits can be a big challenge! With only one parent, if you have work shift changes, or if your child changes his or her sleeping habits, it can send the household into spin cycle. Trying to make sure … Continue reading →

Making Changes With or Without Your Family

Sure, it is nice to make changes and try new things as a family, but that isn’t always possible. You may have visions of becoming a vegetarian family or switching churches and find that others within the family unit balk and refuse to participate–or at least to participate willingly. It can take a little tact, care, patience, and planning to make big changes as a group–and sometimes, you might have to just make them on your own! When kids are young, it might be easier to make wholesale changes as a family. The less independent and mobile kids are, the … Continue reading →

Sleep Issues In Adopted Children, Part Two

In Part One of this blog, I talked about sleep issues in adopted children. This blog will focus on the ways parents try to manage sleep issues, and why some of these approaches may be either more or less appropriate for an adopted child. First of all, keep expectations realistic. It takes time to adjust to new schedules and new time zones. If you are a new parent, read up on how much babies typically sleep. There is a lot of variation, and many books consider a five-hour sleep stretch to be “sleeping through the night” for a young infant. … Continue reading →

Making Business Changes Painlessly

Change is one of those inevitable constants I write about fairly regularly here in the Home Business blog. The truth is that flexible business models that can change and adjust with market fluctuations and trends are a very good thing. BUT, change isn’t always easy. As a matter of fact, there can be a fair amount of resistance and stress around changes in our home businesses—both for us and for our customers or clients. Learning how to make changes as painless as possible for those we do business with can be a benefit to our bottom line. There is a … Continue reading →

Preferred Parent?

It is normal for any parent to feel jealousy if a child seems to bond with someone else more easily than with them. Perhaps those feelings are exacerbated for adoptive parents who’ve waited a long time to be parents and who may secretly wonder if they are missing some primal biological connection. But it’s important to keep the situation in perspective. In reality, all children, adopted or not, will go through periods of seeming to prefer one parent over another. One common reason is simply time spent together. This works both ways. Naturally a child may bond first to the … Continue reading →

Adjustment at Home

“I cannot believe how beautifully she’s adjusted,” my mother said. Most people echoed her feelings. My daughter, who arrived home two weeks before her first birthday, seemed beautifully adjusted during the day. Although she at first cried if my husband or I were not in the room, when we were in the room she would sit and play and interact with adoring friends and relatives. They marveled when she crawled or babbled. Even though eleven month-olds are supposed to crawl and babble, it still seemed like a miracle—both because we were witnessing it for the first time, and because it … Continue reading →

Developmental Vs. Chronological Age

One thing parents should keep in mind is that a child’s developmental age may not be the same as his/her chronological age. This may happen more often with children who are adopted as they may have lacked the stimulation to reach developmental milestones, psychological stages of development may be interrupted by a move, or the child may be busy adjusting to a new environment, schedule and parents rather than using that energy to progress in development. It is even psychologically healthy, adoption counselors say, for children to repeat some of the stages of development with their new parents. For example, … Continue reading →