Tag Archives: adult children

Disadvantages of Kinship Adoption

My last blog wrote about kinship adoption and its advantages. Of course, there are disadvantages as well. The disadvantages include the muddling of relationships within the family. A birthmother may resent her parents or sibling for being able to raise the child when she cannot. She may have trouble letting go of the parental role if she sees her birth child at the family home or at family gatherings. The adoptive parents may also feel resentful, since they likely did not set out to adopt a child. They may feel that the birthparent’s lifestyle forced them into the situation of … Continue reading →

Are You Enabling Your Adult Child?

What exactly does it mean to “enable your adult child?” What the act of enabling does is to actively prevent your child from achieving appropriate developmental milestones as they age. Thus continually refusing to make your child/teenager/young adult take responsibility for their omissions and commissions of duty effectively leaves them as underperforming adults. In simpler words, if you do not make your 8-year old carry his or her plate to the kitchen after a meal and dispose of it according to age-appropriate behaviors, you are allowing that child to remain emotionally at that age, in that area of responsibility, longer … Continue reading →

Creating House Rules for Your Boomerang Child

It’s far too easy when a child boomerangs to let them move back in and resume old roles. You’ll start to look after them, your spouse will ask them to kick around the ball or give them some handy cash if they need it. In the worst case of scenarios, your boomerang will start sleeping late, forgetting to pick up after his or herself and make demands on the menu and much more. Create House Rules We discussed some house rules you need to set up with your child in Are Your Boomerang Children at Home? but there are other … Continue reading →