Tag Archives: couple time

Depression- part 2

Yesterday we looked at dealing with depression and what you can do if your spouse is suffering from depression. Here are some more thoughts on the subject. Don’t be afraid to get professional help. Too often people can be embarrassed or made to feel they should be able to deal with things. This is especially true in Christian circles. There seems to be an idea that Christians should never suffer depression because they are Christian. That is not recognizing that depression is a medical condition, an illness that needs treating. So find a psychologist who can help you. If you … Continue reading →

Tips for Married Life After Baby

Yesterday we looked at how some new Moms abdicate from normal life when baby arrives. Here are helpful tips and ways we went about preventing this. From the time my children were born, I got them used to noise. The radio or music was always on. We never tiptoed round the house when baby was asleep. They learned to get used to everyday noise. I still went out to tennis, to bible study, to whatever I was involved in. Our daughter was five days old when my husband and I took her to Sunday school with us, where we were … Continue reading →

A Baby Will Affect Your Marriage

A baby will affect your marriage. Married life changes after children arrive purely because of the amount of time a baby takes up and needs. However the new mother needs to be very careful at this time that her husband does not feel excluded and pushed to the periphery. Try and involve your husband as much as possible holding the baby, helping with feeding if bottle fed. If baby is breast fed then you will have to find other ways to involve your spouse. Let him read to them. Yes, I did say read. I‘m a great believer that children … Continue reading →

Time Out!

We’ve no doubt all heard of children being given ‘time out’ at school or in the home for wrong behavior. For a marriage ‘time out’ can be a beneficial time. Of course ‘time out’ doesn’t have to be a negative thing. I’m not talking about ‘time out’ for wrong behavior. I’m thinking more of ‘time out’ away from the family, even if they’re in the same house. Let me explain, Is there a time or place when you and your spouse get to talk without being interrupted by children and other demands? If not, there should be. Why not set … Continue reading →

Changing Patterns in Marriage

As you look through the kaleidoscope of marriage, you will see changing patterns. Firstly there is the honeymoon stage, where you’re so in love and it’s all new and exciting. But not everyone finds the first year of marriage to be exciting. Some people find it decidedly stressful as they adapt to a marriage partner. This is followed, for most people, by the pattern of one or more children. Again that will depend on circumstances and what the couple decide. Children are a great blessing, but they also mean changes and added stress in a marriage. Sometimes a husband can … Continue reading →

Let the Madness Begin: Holiday Dinners Here, There and Everywhere

How do you decide which family you’ll spend holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas with? Some people are lucky and have their families all in the same city or state. Others, like Wayne and I, live in a different state than our families. Others have an even more complicated dilemma: her parents live in one state and his live in another. It gets tricky juggling where to go. Wayne and I are lucky, because even though we have to travel to go home for the holidays, at least everyone’s in Colorado somewhere. The majority of kin is in the Denver metro … Continue reading →

Tips for Finding More Alone Time

I often hear from and read about couples that simply cannot find alone time for themselves individually, as a couple, or both. With the demands of family, home, work, and outside activities, they are simply exhausted at the end of the day. Here are some tips for making a little self-time or couple-time: Soccer Mom Syndrome Moms and Dads who feel like they spend every spare moment in the car running the kids to and fro, often feel like they have not time for themselves or each other. I’ve been there, done that, and I should have at least one … Continue reading →

Four Fun Date Night Ideas

You finally made time for a date night, but now you can’t come up with an idea for something fun to do. Well, the ideas below might appeal to you or maybe they’ll inspire you to come up with something. As the weather gets warmer, more opportunities will present themselves, so take advantage of the great outdoors whenever possible with picnics, hikes, and the like. Check out some of these ideas instead of the same old stuff: Be a Good Sport In other words, go outside and play. Playing sports together can be a lot of fun and a little … Continue reading →

A Lazy Day to Do Nothing

Sometime, instead of planning an actual date night, consider just taking a day together to do nothing. Relax. Be lazy. Lie around in your jammies. Drink coffee and read the paper in bed, or just stay snuggled up and watch a great old movie. Order take-out or better yet, have something delivered. We all need to spend time with our spouses and sometimes that means getting out of the house; however, doing nothing can also be very therapeutic. This is especially true for those with hectic schedules. Years ago, my husband worked days and I worked nights. His mom would … Continue reading →

Date Night? Get Lost!

I’m not suggesting that “get lost” should be your answer when your spouse wants a date with you. Not at all. I’m suggesting that you and your spouse actually go out and get lost together. Does that sound a little crazy? Maybe, but don’t knock it until you try it. While the weather in your area might not be conducive to a good hike or other outdoor adventure right now, keep this idea in mind for when the weather is nice. My husband and I used to drop the kids off with his folks and just start driving, destination unknown. … Continue reading →