Tag Archives: foster care

Should You Consider Adoption Part 2

I am trying to help bring to light the major need for people to adopt from the United States foster care system. I know there are some concerns that people have when they think of adoption. The first one that I want to talk about is that they want a newborn only and they do not think they can get a newborn from the foster care system. I personally know that is not true. There are a great many infants in the foster care system. They may have been given up by their mother, turned into a safe site through … Continue reading →

Reunification is Not an Option For Me

The day after our face to face with CPS and the biological mother to our kids I was feeling a little more hopeful that case worker would finally be thinking that reunification is out of the question. Why would they consider reunification to a mother who just married a guy out of the blue that is obviously abusing her? They wouldn’t right? So why is it that the case worker called and said they were adding the new husband to the reunification parenting plan? They were going to offer him counseling and parenting classes that were going to be mandatory … Continue reading →

We Find Out ABout Our Daughter

So I am sitting at my desk at work and the Texas CPS case worker for our two boys was on the phone. They had found their biological mother who was under arrest for a parole violation and he had a question for me. My heart was racing and tears were welling in my eyes I thought for sure he was going to tell me she wanted to fight for custody of at least one of the boys who I loved as my sons. It was a week before our first Christmas we have been looking forward to this so … Continue reading →

Low Risk Foster Placement

In July 2002 we brought home two boys ages 14 months and 3 years they were in the process of having their biological mother’s parental rights revoked by the state of Texas. We are planning on adopting them and at this point we are their legal guardians as they are our foster children. When we filled the paperwork out for adoption we stated that we only wanted to take children who were legally free to adopt or in the process of becoming legally free. Our agency called them a low risk placement. We give total thanks to people who open … Continue reading →

Our First Social Worker Visit

When a child is placed with you in Foster Care you have to do visits with both your social worker and the state’s social worker. Most of our visits came from our own social worker. She would drive up about every two weeks, to see how they boys were adjusting and if we had any problems or concerns. When our first visit came we were very concerned we really did not know how it was going to go. Steve was still rather shy and we hoped that all would go well. We thought we made good progress so far, we … Continue reading →

Would You Use a Trash Bag for Luggage?

How would you feel if when you were moving you had to pack your worldly belongings in a black trash bag? This is a reality for too many kids in foster care. They do not get to keep the toys they played with in the foster home. They don’t get to bring their favorite books. If there were other children in their home they may lose the only friend that have when they change homes. Then the few clothes they do get to bring are way too often loaded in trash bags to bring to their new home. How would … Continue reading →

Foster Care Problems

There is a sad reality in America when it comes to how children are treated rather mistreated in the foster care system. Children that are placed in foster care already have strikes against them. The children have either been physically, mentally or sexually abused, they have lost their biological family and been placed with strangers. Shouldn’t the foster homes that they are placed in be the absolute best that it can be? Should the children in foster care have to be mistreated by a person who just wants the checks? The horror stories that you hear about foster children being … Continue reading →

Why We Chose Adoption

When my husband and I started discussing getting married we both decided that we wanted to adopt a child or a sibling group. Unlike a majority of the people who make the decision to adopt we did not have a fertility issue. We actually took all the necessary precautions not to have children the good old fashioned way. If you are anything like my in-laws, you may be wondering why we would chose adoption rather than birthing our children. Hopefully this blog will help clarify that for you. When we thought of our family we both knew that the kids … Continue reading →

Mentor Family?

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I contacted the adoption recruiter regarding one of the girls we were matched with, and instead of putting me in touch with her social worker she informed me that this girl is sort of freaked out about the idea of adoption, and she asked whether we would be interested in starting out as a mentor family. That is all the information I have for the time being. She just left me wondering… What does that mean? Is this just a way of slowly introducing her to a family? Is this a one time thing, a way of easing her into … Continue reading →

Book Review: Maybe Days: A Book for Kids in Foster Care

My last blog mentioned some books written to help foster care kids understand and come to terms with their experiences. I wanted to write a full review of another book, Maybe Days: a Book for Children in Foster Care. This book, labeled for ages 4-10 years, seems to me to be for somewhat older kids than The Star or Zachary’s New Home (books discussed in the last blog). It is written by Jennifer Wilgocki, M.S., a child and family therapist who presents training on attachment and bonding issues to professionals and foster parents. Dr. Marcia Wright is a clinical psychologist. … Continue reading →