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“Little Children” and The Loveless Marriage

When I got home last night, my husband was upstairs, still putting the kids to bed. It sounded pretty quiet, but there was still a sleepy mumble or two coming from the bedrooms. I decided to stay downstairs until I knew the kids were asleep, in order not to rouse them. There wasn’t enough time to do much else that wouldn’t make noise, so I grabbed a basket of laundry to fold and popped on the television. A movie was on called Little Children. It seemed pretty interesting, but I soon learned that the main character was in the middle … Continue reading →

Is There a Seven-Year Itch?

There has been a lot of debate by experts and non experts alike over whether or not there is such as thing as the seven-year itch, in which married people are likely to pursue an extra-marital affair and infidelity. Numerous studies have been done about this phenomena. Here is what people are saying. Being stuck in a rut can lead to the seven year itch. A study in India checked with couples at different years of their marriages. They found the biggest decline in marital satisfaction from couples who expressed concern about being stuck in a rut several years earlier. … Continue reading →

One Sign Your Husband May Be Cheating

Some wives seem to know right from the start that their husbands are cheating, while others say that they never suspected a thing. Here is one sign that generally means that you husband may be cheating. While some people are naturally more suspicious than others by nature, husbands who cheat generally start accusing their wives of cheating. If your husband suddenly starts accusing you of cheating, wants to know where you are every moment of the day, makes accusations about your loyalty and fidelity or is generally overcome with jealousy that is unwarranted, it may be because he is himself … Continue reading →

Reasons to Give Your Spouse a Second Chance

Whether it is a matter of sexual infidelity or just forgetting your birthday, here are some reasons why you should just let it go and give your spouse a second chance. Good basic character If you spouse is basically a decent person with a good character then it usually means that a second chance would be rewarded. Has your spouse showed you time and time again that he or she has a commitment to you and the relationship? Did you trust your spouse before the current issue? Does your spouse generally care about others and usually does the right thing? … Continue reading →

What Do Men and Women Look for in an Affair?

If you want to protect your marriage from outside affairs, it might be helpful to understand what men and women look for when it comes to an affair. Usually (although not always!) there is something lacking in a relationship that prompts an affair. Affairs can be complicated things, so I don’t want to suggest that things are black and white or that any of these reasons justify having an affair. But numerous studies have suggested that men and women generally are looking for different things, depending on gender, when they are ready to become involved in an affair. I don’t … Continue reading →

Should You Avoid Divorce?

There are plenty of articles out there concerning the art of avoiding divorce, as if there were some magic formula that you could apply to guarantee that your marriage will not fail. I think we all eagerly read those bits of advice as a way of making sure that our marriages are on track. Or maybe we are struggling within our marriage and are looking for the secrets of avoiding divorce. Well, let me through my two cents in here, although it might not be too popular. There are some times when divorce can’t or shouldn’t be avoided. Some people … Continue reading →

The Bonding Hormone and Monogamy

There has been quite a bit of research into love and the brain. Scientists have isolated parts of the brain they believe that love is felt. So that stab to your heart is really coming from your head. Within all of that science, researchers have made some conclusions about how we bond and why we are or are not monogamous. And it seems that there is a certain truth to the belief that some men just aren’t cut out for monogamy. Let’s start with the woman. A hormone called oxytocin is responsible for encouraging bonding. Oxytocin is released during childbirth … Continue reading →

Overcoming a Crisis in Marriage

The statistics for a divorce after a crisis in your life are overwhelming. A crisis, whether it is an internal conflict such as infidelity or something outside of your control, such as a death in the family, this is the time when your marriage may be most vulnerable. Here is some advice on how you can survive the crisis and make your marriage even stronger. Someone once told me that a crisis in life is just like a hurricane. It is large, loud, very scary and can result in injury or death. I think this is a good comparison. Hurricanes … Continue reading →

What is an Affair?

We all know the definition of an affair, don’t we? But wait! Go ahead and try to define it and it may not be so black and white. Behavior that might be seen as an affair by one couple or even one individual may not been seen as an affair by your own definition or vice versa. For example, is an affair when a spouse engages in sexual intercourse with another person outside of the marriage? Sure, okay, but what about if there is no intercourse, but there is kissing? Does a quick peck on the lips count? How about … Continue reading →