Tag Archives: married life

Letting Go of Control

I’m doing this great online Bible study from a book called, “Let It Go.”  One of my favorite chapters was “Managing Your Man” and it was all about learning to let go, to stop trying to control your husband. This is a common issue in marriages but it can affect both sides.  The very things about your spouse that made you fall in love; quickly become the very things you try to change. Some people take the whole “the two shall become one” thing to mean control.  But this is detrimental to your marriage. I was pretty messed up when … Continue reading →

Should You Be Judged By Your Spouse’s Behavior or Choices?

So I was reading in the paper this weekend that Hillary Clinton is dancing around addressing her husband’s record in the White House. I’ve read editorials that cite Hillary with contempt for the things that Bill did. There were also a few op-ed pieces that wanted to take Hillary to task for Bill Clinton policies. Now I realize this is politics and they’ll pick on you for what your grandmother’s boyfriend’s best friend did thirty years before you were born when it comes to politics – the worse it makes you look, the better to smear you with. But should … Continue reading →

Can We Be a Family of Two?

It is part of our culture to assume that when two people get married, they will have children. From our earliest youth we are taught this is the way it is with songs like: John and Mary, kissing in a tree, K.I.S.S.I.N.G First comes love Then comes marriage Then comes John and Mary with a baby carriage. However, there is nothing wrong with the couple that makes the choice to forgo parenthood. While there are some who may disagree with me, the idea of a couple deliberately electing to be childless may be non-conformist, but it isn’t abnormal. Why Would … Continue reading →

Their Love Is Your Love

Do you remember what attracted you to your spouse in the first place? Do you remember what made you decide to get together with them? Do you remember what inspired you to make that first connection? If you’re like most people, what brought you and your spouse together the very first time was a common interest. That common interest may have been related to being in the same place at the same time (i.e. a party or a workplace) or knowing the same person (i.e. a relative or a mutual friend) or it may be related to a hobby (i.e. … Continue reading →