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Mediation While Married

Here’s an interesting concept….a divorce hotel. Apparently this is a venture created by a Dutch entrepreneur, where couples can stay in a luxury hotel and in just three days end their marriage without a lawyer. They come to terms through mediation. There is an interesting thing about mediation when you are divorcing. I can’t help but think if any couple is able to successfully pull this off, why can’t they do the same while married and then stay married? I can never understand those stories where couples get along great after they have split up. Or sometimes you even hear … Continue reading →

A Letter Was Returned

If you remember part of our mediation agreement was that should the biological mother move she had to notify us within 30 days? We added this clause because of the fact that she has a history of disappearing for months on end and if she wants to show us and more importantly her kids that they mean something to her she will keep up her end of the agreement. If two letters get returned to us we had the legal right to stop with the updates. We have only sent one update so far and it has been returned to … Continue reading →

Our First Letter

Rebecca was legally ours as the adoption was finally able to proceed after the mediation with the biological mother was successful in having her relinquish her parental rights. Part of the mediation agreement was to establish a post office box where the biological mother of our children would be able to send correspondences to the children. We had told her we would put the letters aside for when the children got old enough to understand what they were about. The conditions of our mediation were that we would send updates of all three children to her on a quarterly basis. … Continue reading →

Our First Letter

Rebecca was legally ours as the adoption was finally able to proceed after the mediation with the biological mother was successful in having her relinquish her parental rights. Part of the mediation agreement was to establish a post office box where the biological mother of our children would be able to send correspondences to the children. We had told her we would put the letters aside for when the children got old enough to understand what they were about. The conditions of our mediation were that we would send updates of all three children to her on a quarterly basis. … Continue reading →

Mediation Day Part 3

We are headed back into the mediation room; we have been hanging around town for the last two hours and the time has come to hear if the biological mother of our kids is going to relinquish her parental rights to Rebecca. If she says no to our offer which included quarterly updates, yearly picture and a video yearly than we are going to have to go to court to fight her for custody. I am ready to go to court if I have to but I would prefer she did what is best for Rebecca. As I mentioned before … Continue reading →

Mediation Part 2

We had denied the biological mothers request for visitation with any of the three children so we were thinking the mediation was not going to come to any sort of agreement. We are prepared to go to court but we are hoping that this would not happen. Prior to the mediation meeting we had decided on what we would and would not agree to. We knew visitation with any of the kids was out; there was no doubt that visitation was never going to happen. When we told her that visitation was out she truly looked disappointed. I totally understand … Continue reading →

We Agreed To Go To Mediation

During the last visitation between Rebecca and the biological mother she had a meeting with the case workers who told her they did not feel reunification was going to be an option as she has not complied with her reunification plan and neither had her husband. They asked if she would consider relinquishing her parental rights and she said she would not do that. During the visitation the case worker suggested we try mediation as a last ditch effort to avoid going to court to force her losing parental rights. We had agreed to mediation but it was up to … Continue reading →

Mediation?

With one missed visitation between biological mother and Rebecca and it was time for the next one. We drove the baby to the one that she missed so technically CPS was supposed to come to us to bring her to the visit but because I knew that they were going to talk to her about relinquishing her rights today we decided to both go with her to the visit. We were sitting in the room with the two way mirror waiting for the biological mother to arrive for the visitation. We normally would sit in the front waiting room until … Continue reading →

Should You Consider Professional Mediation?

Do you find attempts at negotiation and conversation with your ex-spouse or your child’s other parent deteriorate into screaming matches or you are just unable to come to agreements about parenting and custody issues? Are you having a hard time getting schedules worked out or keeping the lines of communication open between one side of your child’s family and the other? Are you still trying to come up with a workable parenting agreement? If there are still unresolved issues and problems regarding parenting your child, then you might want to consider bringing in a professional mediator to help you with … Continue reading →

The Fight for Isaiah is Over

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The first mediation session ended without success because Lola decided that she needed to talk to her drug rehab counselor at the last minute and we could not find him. We were all guardedly optimistic about the second session. We started to worry when Lola arrived. She looked really bad. I had seen her like this many times before. She told us that she had not talked to the counselor and that we were going to have a trial because she was not going to sign anything. When she came back, she told me that she had lost the pictures … Continue reading →