Letting go of Illusions

Sometimes, our denial and illusions can be a benefit—especially in the early stages of starting a business. I know that I needed a certain amount of “moxy” when I took the plunge and started working on my own. As we strive to build our businesses, however, we do need to let go of that denial and those illusions so that we can see things more clearly. We need to be able to “get real” when it comes to our skills and talents and strengths and weaknesses. The word “illusion” is a synonym for “delusion” and illusions are false ideas or … Continue reading

What is “Real” to You and What is “Real” to Your Child May Differ

“There’s a monster under my bed!” Or “I saw a fairy today!” Fantasies and imaginations run wild with small children. Even the young toddler may start to tell grand “tales” and have nightmares and fantasies. Our first inclination as parents may be to reprimand our child and try to get him to understand that his fantasies and imaginings are not “real”—but what is real and obvious to us may not be the same “real” that our child is experiencing. Common advice for a parent who is dealing with a three-year-old who has developed a fear of “imaginary” ghosts is to … Continue reading

The “Idea” of Children and Family Vs. the Reality

Yesterday I wrote about the single parent’s dilemma of trying to find grown-ups to date and socialize with and not people who are interested in us or attracted to us BECAUSE we are parents and they think we can help take care of them too. As I was writing about it, I realized that there is another “issue” that single parents attempting to date face and that is the fact that many people are intrigued or think they like the “idea” or the “ideal” of children and family life, but they are not prepared at all for the reality… Sure, … Continue reading

Balancing Expectations With Reality

Having expectations is not necessarily a bad thing. After all, our expectations can guide us in the direction of our dreams, help us strive to become better people and develop new skills, and expectations can be a form of hope that gives us reason to get up in the mornings. It is also natural for parents to have expectations when it comes to their children—behavior, academics, sports, talent, etc. can all be areas where we carry expectations for our children. It is important, however, to find a way to balance our expectations with reality. In moderation, I think that letting … Continue reading

Reality Scrapbooking

Reality is taking risks, having adventures and in short, stepping outside the box. Stepping outside the box in journaling means focusing on capturing every aspect of an event or time. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Reality TV shows have become so popular that on any given night you are sure to find at least one or two. They seem to have it all wrapped up in each show. The good, the bad and the ugly. I am really not sure why they have become so popular, but for me the interest lies in the fact that I can … Continue reading