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How Did You Do on the Marriage Quiz?

I hope you’ve all completed the quiz; you and your spouse before checking back to see the scoring and a few of my thoughts. Questions 1-3 The favorite color, movie and song should be basic things you know about your spouse. Give yourself 3 points for each one of these you got right. No extra points if it’s your special song. Scoring for both Q4 and Q5 a. 4 b. 5 c. 3 d. 2 e. 1 You’ll notice that always doesn’t get the top points, because no matter how close you are and how well you know each other, … Continue reading →

Blown Out of All Proportion

Recently I’ve witnessed examples in several marriages and relationships, where trivial incidents have been blown out of all proportion. What started as a minor irritation or amusing incident escalated and became a drama of mammoth proportions, which left behind a wake of hurt feelings, accusations, lack of understanding and forgiveness, and resulted in irreconcilable differences. All because one person wasn’t able to say sorry and apologize. In the end, it doesn’t matter who’s right and who’s wrong. What matters is that someone apologizes and stops the situation from turning into a major drama. It’s no good standing on your dig, … Continue reading →

Are Men Really the Weaker Sex?

I’ve been thinking a bit since reading Courtney’s blog about men being the weaker sex and trying to relate it to the men I am or have been closest too – my husband, son, son-in-law and my father. In each case I can’t see that these guys fit that pattern. As on example, last Saturday when I was launching GROW – UNDER THE SOUTHERN CROSS, an anthology of poems and stories for children and young teenagers, I had nothing but support from the men in my life. Mick spent a great deal of time organizing and printing fliers to send … Continue reading →

A Blind Date Leads to Love and Years

I never went on a blind date, although I tried (unsuccessfully, I might add) to arrange one or two. But for one couple a blind date turned out to be just the beginning. That blind date was over 50 years ago. This year the couple, Nancy and James Hibbert of Australia, achieved something statistics show only about five percent achieve – they celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. When asked the secret to a long and happy marriage the Hibberts, who live at Culburra Beach, replied ‘give and take.’ And really, that sums it up in a nutshell. That’s exactly the … Continue reading →

Not Being Able to Say Sorry has Far-Reaching Effects

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Most of us find it difficult to say sorry from time to time. But it is really worth the effort to ask ourselves “Why?” Because being unable to say “Sorry, I have made a mistake” can cause problems in all areas of our lives. A friend recently encountered a person who ran a jewelry mail order company in Ireland. The representative of this business was categorically unable to apologize for mistakes he had made and consequently has not only lost a customer, but this particular customer will tell others about his poor service and his business will suffer as a … Continue reading →

“I’m Not Sorry I Did It”

We want our children to feel remorse. For some reason, we parents tend to think if we just hear them say that they are sorry, they will feel remorse and be less likely to do something in the future. Some parents even use the “say your sorry” as part of a disciplining process. When a child is able to end a time out, for example, she has to make apology to the wounded party. Inevitably, however, you are going to hear an outspoken and honest child announce, “But I’m NOT sorry I did it!” Then what? I have been blessed … Continue reading →

Lessons in Apologies

I have never been the type of parent to force my kids to apologize regardless–as in “Say you’re sorry” whether they had come to the conclusion that they were actually sorry or not. Instead, I have preferred to try to help them see the other side of things and experience remorse on their own terms, then tried to give them ways to make amends and right some of those wrongs. Over the years, however, I have found there are a dozen ways to apologize (at least) and parenthood provides endless opportunities to learn lessons in apologies… While I was pretty … Continue reading →

Saying You’re Sorry

I think one of the most difficult things for any of us to do is to admit when we’re wrong. It might be that we believe we are right or it might be that our spirit becomes too prideful to humble ourselves to say those simple words, “I’m sorry.” It’s also difficult to say you’re sorry to someone who might not appreciate that you are. Sometimes the person we’ve offended is prideful themselves and we don’t want to say we’re sorry just to have it taken as a point of weakness. Regardless of the reasons for one’s resistance, we have … Continue reading →