The Measure of Success

I was talking to a dear friend of mine late last night. We both were expressing our frustration with the men, or lack thereof, in our lives. We both have had such a strong desire to find a good man to share our lives with and have tried our best to live worthy of such a man; a man who would love and support us, who would be a good father and husband.

I realized before long that we had both equated our success in life to whether or not we would ever marry. We both had such an intense desire for that one thing that we were lacking, that we forgot to look at all of the great things we’ve done along the way. Both of us, as teachers, will change the lives of countless little children as we nurture and care for them in our classrooms. She has spent her entire life in the service of others and has touched lives in so many ways. I have been raising a sweet little boy on my own and showing him how to be the best little man he can be. Along with that I have been a strength to many other single mothers through my writing. Something I always dreamed of, but never expected to become a reality. We both have accomplished amazing things. We’ve had opportunities to make a difference in the world, yet somehow we both felt that we had not achieved any success because we didn’t have a man in our lives anymore.

Whether you are married or not, you can make a difference in the world. You already are make a difference in the lives of your children as you raise them and teach them things of eternal value in their lives. There are plenty of ways to serve those around you. No matter how bad you have it, there is always someone who has it worse. Find them and serve them. It not only helps lift them up, but it helps you become a better person as well. You will never feel better than when you are in the service of those in need; to know you have left this world a little better than it was yesterday will bring you great joy, and you don’t even need a man to do it!