The bond between a mother and a son is thought to be a very close one. The term “mama’s boy” is very popular and usually with good reason. I know my son is definitely one!
I can imagine that it is very hard for a mother to see her son attached to another woman. Likewise, it can be hard for a man to grow accustomed to another woman.
However, one of the hardest things that a woman can hear in a marriage is a comparison to her husband’s mother. Of course, meaning when the comparison is bad. When your husband refers to you as not matching up or being as good as his mother it can hit hard.
This topic often can come up when cooking or cleaning or other household chores are concerned.
I think that men as children (or children in general) often do not see the behind the picture scenes that are put into taking care of a family and house. They only see that everything gets taken care of and that everything gets done. Therefore, when the responsibility turns to them, they somehow think that it should just all magically happen.
They did not know about the years of hard work and effort that their mother and father had to put into the house and family.
It also seems hard for men to adjust from a woman being the caretaker of him to the woman being a partner. The man often stills wants the woman to take on the role of caregiver. Some women have no interest in taking on this role for their husband.
If the comparison happens only a time or two, try to be understanding and explain to your husband that he now is in a new phase of life and that things are different. He will grow accustom to your way and soon you will be the one that he compares everyone to.
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