Being single is rough, especially when you have children who are depending on you to smile through it. While I have done my fair share of dating since my divorce, I feel like I am the only one that is still single. Every time I hear of another engagement I find myself feeling a little nostalgic, thinking, “I remember what that was like.” Dating has been a whole different ball game now that I’m divorced. Before it seemed so simple. All you had to worry about was, “Does he or doesn’t he?” Now the decision effects more than just me, and that alone terrifies me. If I make a wrong decision it not only effects me, but it effects my son as well. Talk about frightening.
As lonely as being a single parent is, I would much rather be alone than with the wrong person again. It is so important to make sure that you don’t waste your time with someone who isn’t right for you and your children. Don’t rush into something just because you are feeling lonely. This only sets you up for disaster. Wouldn’t you rather find someone that treats you like a princess? You can have that. It takes a little patience, but there are good men out there, as hard as that is to believe sometimes, they are out there. It just takes a little time to weed out the bad ones.
In the meantime, enjoy this time that you are single. You have the unique opportunity to be with your children one on one right now. Take advantage of that. Do things that help you to build those relationships. They can be your strength while you are waiting for Prince Charming to come sweep you off your feet. Have a date night with them instead. Don’t forget to take a little time out to pamper yourself. Take a bubble bath, get a massage, read a book, do some yoga, or listen to some music. It doesn’t matter what it is, but take even just a few minutes out of your day to recharge those batteries and remind yourself that you are worth pampering. Patience will be my lifelong battle, but I’ve decided forever really is worth waiting for.