Finding Joy in the Little Things

Some days are just hard. When you are going through a divorce it seems most days are that way, at least for a little while. I’ve found that even after almost two years many days are still difficult. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself when you are in the midst of trials. You look up at the sky and wonder, why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this? The truth is we all have trials. They are meant to make us strong. When you find yourself feeling down and wondering how you are going … Continue reading

Here’s to New Beginnings!

As 2012 is coming to a close, I have had some time to reflect on the happenings of the year. It has been a year of many ups and downs. I’ve gained eternal friends, loved and lost, struggled and triumphed, and learned more about myself than I ever imagined possible. I am not the same woman I was at the beginning of the year. I have gained so much strength throughout the continuing trials of divorce. I have grown into a better woman and a better mother. While this may not have been a perfect year, it was certainly one … Continue reading

That We Might Have Joy

I am a firm believer that we were not sent to this Earth to be miserable. That doesn’t mean that we won’t go through hard times, but it is our job to find the light through the darkness that is placed before us. I never dreamed that I would find myself in the middle of a divorce at 21 years old. I was unwillingly thrust into single parenthood and I was devastated. I was convinced that I would never feel joy again. For a while I couldn’t pull myself out of it. It was all I could do to get … Continue reading

Cleaning Out Your Backpack

After going through a divorce it is easy to get bogged down with negativity. We begin filling our backpacks with rock after rock after rock and before long, the weight on our shoulders is keeping us from moving forward and climbing the mountains before us. When I was going through my divorce my self-esteem was at an all time low. Every morning I would look in the mirror and start piling the rocks in my backpack. “Nobody is going to want me now.” Clunk! “I’m not pretty enough.” Clunk! “I’m not skinny enough.” Clunk! “I couldn’t keep my marriage together. … Continue reading

I Wouldn’t Change a Thing

I often wonder what my life would have been like if my ex husband and I wouldn’t have gotten married, if we hadn’t had Logan when we did. My life would have been so different. Perhaps some heartache could have been avoided had I not pursued our marriage. I will never know the answer, but I’m not really sure I want to. While my life likely would have been much easier had I chosen differently, I would not be the woman I am today without those decisions. My divorce was the most difficult thing I have ever gone through. I … Continue reading

Faking It

When you are divorced not every day is a happy one. In fact, some days are just plain hard! Especially in the beginning, it can be difficult not to let your children see how much you are hurting, how much you just don’t want to get out of bed in the morning. They are likely going through their own set of emotions that they are trying to sort out. If they see you moping around it only gives them one more thing to worry about. You have to be so careful about how much you let them see. Sometimes you’re … Continue reading

It Takes Two

One of my biggest struggles being divorced is constantly hearing this phrase. It’s one we’ve all heard time and time again, but it isn’t always true. No marriage is perfect, we all have our faults that we continually have to work on both as individuals and as a couple, but we have to remember that we both have our agency. Sometimes one person will make a decision that breaks apart the marriage, while the other person is doing everything they can to make it work. My mother was physically and emotionally abused for six years before she had the courage … Continue reading

Sadness vs. Depression What’s the Difference?

We all have experienced sadness at some point in our lives. It is a natural reaction when we go through certain trials in our lives to feel sad at our circumstances. However it is only temporary, as we come to terms with these circumstances, and work through them, we recover and the sadness begins to subside. Depression is a far deeper issue. When someone is depressed there is an actual chemical imbalance in their brain. This can be caused by tragedy in the person’s life, but also can happen for no apparent reason at all. When someone is suffering from … Continue reading

Dating as a Single-Parent

Within a few weeks of my divorce people were already anxiously waiting to set me up. I desperately wanted to move on with my life, but was still grieving the loss of my marriage. I battled with myself constantly. At first I just wanted to fill the void that was left when my ex walked out. I felt an intense loneliness that I wanted nothing more than to be rid of. My self-esteem was shot and I honestly thought, “Who in the world is going to want me now? I’m divorced and have a three year old. Who in their … Continue reading