When it comes to the letter I and marriage, probably the first one we think of after ‘I love you’ is Intimacy.
Intimacy
Mention intimacy and most people’s minds will immediately go to the sexual act since it is the most intimate relationship. Certainly sex is an important part of marriage and should be a pleasurable experience for both parties. In a good marriage it can be the time when we feel most at one with our spouse.
It can be not so enjoyable if both of you are not happy with what happens. If your spouse is doing something you like, let them know. If they are doing something you don’t like, then you also need to be table to tell them gently and honestly how you feel.
Intimacy involves much more than the sexual act. It involves being able to talk to your spouse and share those things you wouldn’t share with anyone else. I know I’ll often tell Mick things that I wouldn’t dream of telling anyone else, but that’s what you do with a best friend. In my view, your spouse should be your best friend, the one you depend on and go to for support, the one who encourages and supports you. Similarly you should be that for them too.
Some people find it harder to be intimate and share their feelings, emotions and thoughts but if you feel secure with the one you love, it should not be a problem.
Imagination
Imagination is a wonderful gift and is something we need to incorporate into our marriages. Anything can become boring if it’s the same day after day. Have you ever been to a college or somewhere where the menu is the same every week? Monday is always sausages, Tuesday stew, Wednesday spaghetti bolognaise etc. It becomes boring very quickly. There’s nothing to look forward to and no surprises. We need to be imaginative in our meals for our spouse and family. You’ll find great ideas on the food blog.
We also need to be imaginative in finding ways of showing love and of what we do with our spouse. Be imaginative and creative in how you spend time together. Some suggested ideas are here. Imagination and intimacy can stop any marriage from getting into a rut.
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